Are aches and pains taking over?
Most of us sadly have or have encountered aches and pains as part of the rich tapestry of life. Last week I was happy to meet with a dear friend (who will remain nameless) who spent the whole conversation talking in minute detail about their particular aches and pains, much to my horror and nothing else. Of course, there is a time and place to speak about such things and it is always good to have a confidant or two with whom you can express your frustrations and all the important details. It’s important to get things off your chest when you’re feeling debilitated by your health and a body that is failing in some way and generally falling apart.We all have less than perfectly behaving bodies especially as the years build up – me, included but it’s not what I want to focus on. I want to be distracted by good company that is full of positivity, beauty, art, and fun! I was going to say that there’ll be plenty time to moan and feel sorry for myself later but actually no there won’t – I want to experience new things, new adventures and reminisce about the good old days. While there’s life there’s hope and much to be grateful for.
I’m not saying don’t ever tell me what’s really going on with you, the bad as well as the good. I’m saying don’t get into a habit of droning on and on and thinking that’s all you have. By concentrating on the positive you might even feel better and lift your spirits and forget about those aches and pains for a moment or two.
Do you have aches and pains or do they have you?
If you think you’ve got into this habit, how do you change? I think the first thing is to recognise when you are slipping into it. Secondly, to just stop and close your mouth until you can say something uplifting, kind or ask a question. Harder to say than do I know but it will be worth it for yourself and those around you.
What do you suggest? How do you keep yourself positive and stop slipping into poor habits?