I’m pleased to say that it’s time for a review – a Confidence Review:
AND I CAN HELP YOU HAVE MORE CONFIDENCE AND FEEL MORE BEAUTIFUL
Born confident & beautiful?
It’s never too late to improve your confidence and feelings of beauty at whatever age and stage in life you are
The New Year is when I open my Selfe Confidence Course: Be confident feel beautiful.
It’s the perfect time for a review, update and plan of action – do join me
I’m happy to say it’s time for a review – a confidence review. I hope that you’ll be pleased to know that there is an opportunity to take my Confidence Course, the Selfe Confidence Course: Be confident – Feel beautiful.
I love to run my Selfe Confidence Course at the beginning of a New Year. It’s a great way to start with a revamp and I’m feeling particularly excited (& rather stunned) with the announcement of being awarded the British Empire Medal (BEM) in The New Year Honour Lists for services to Women & Fashion. Thank you so much if you have sent congratulations – I’ve had so many messages and I’ve tried hard to response to each one. If I’ve missed you please know that I appreciate each and every one of them – it means a lot to me to have your support.
If you are interested in finding out about my confidence course do make sure you put your email on my Confidence list at the bottom of the page to get all the information. If you’ve subscribed to the Confidence Course List recently then you are all set!
…… and the Daphne Selfe Academy (my modelling course) will be starting in March. It follows on so well from the Selfe Confidence Course!
If you’ve done one of my courses already do let me know if you fancy a refresher as you are most welcome. Do get your friends and family to join this time!
About the Confidence Review
Are you happy with how you feel, look and are approaching this stage of your life?
How is your wardrobe, make-up, hair, confidence and self-esteem?
Do you want this next chapter in life to be the one where you are happy with your age, weight, appearance, mood and impact on others?
Is this the time for that new job, partner, hobby or adventure and you don’t want to hold yourself back any longer?
How much more energy and confidence would you have if you were really comfortable in your own skin expressing your own uniqueness and style?
I understand that change is uncomfortable and it is much easier to stick to familiar old habits. Taking on new ways of being can be very worthwhile and transformative. With years in front of the camera and on the catwalk along with a lifetime love of fashion and style I can help with the where, how and what!
Building confidence from action starting right now with one very simple but powerful step. I want you wherever you are are to sit or stand a bit taller. Stretch up your spine out of your hips and pull your shoulders back and breath. Doesn’t that feel good? Are you ready to create dreams and goals and face new challenges with more confidence already!
Standing taller with better posture not only makes you feel more confident it will make you less invisible (no more invisibility thank you, although an invisibility cloak might be useful on the odd occasion – you’re too precious for that!) Test out this new posture when you walk across your place of work/study/home or down the street. Notice not only how it feels to you but how others respond to you. Any type of clothing looks better too – I know, I’ve modelled a rubbish bag before!
Can you keep this new posture up? How long before you lapse back to a familiar, less than ideal one – is the invisibility cloak back on?
This is a nice simple and straightforward step where there is always room for improvement.
It’s never too late or pointless to improve your confidence and feel more beautiful. A confidence review is a way of investing in yourself for today and tomorrow. If this has sparked an interest and you want to know more do look out for my Confidence Update email (sign up below) for further details on my Selfe Confidence Course – a 4 week on-line course that is easy and fun.
Lastly, what is your biggest confidence challenge? Do let me know in the comments below and you can put your name down on my Confidence list here if you haven’t already to get further information and don’t forget to tell your family and friends so they can join in too!
Let me help – Look out for my next update – A Confidence Update, where I will have an example of what’s possible and more on Selfe Confidence Daphne’s way!
PS: How happy are you on film and doing Selfies? Social media is all the rage – don’t get left behind instead join in the fun.
PPS: Don’t assume the best days of your life are behind you (I’m now in my 90s so I think I can safely say I know).
I’m 20 kg. of overweight, and that has killed my self-steeme completely and so have fall in a big deppresion. I only pray for being strong enough to start the journey of being myself again and don’t fall in desesperance. And of course, walk unto a room feeling confident.
You can do it – a little at a time every day is key (don’t try and change too much in one go). Small steps will bring your confidence and self-esteem back. Be determined and good luck.
Receiving an e-mail for any form of self-awareness is marvelous! I very recently fell (putting kitty out in the wee hours) and seriously broke shoulder and arm. Surgery scheduled in two days time. The point I’m making is that since my introduction this year to Daphne and her ideas and goals, I face this challenge with a new attitude. Excited to get mended back together and begin the rehab process with elan. You should see some of the outfits I have concocted to accommodate one arm!
So far this has not gotten me down thanks to the new view of me Daphne has helped release.
Oh you poor thing – what a terrible thing to happen. So glad you have the right attitude and I know you will do all the prescribed exercises in time as best you can to get back on form quickly. Love to see your outfits!
Thank you Daphne for your wise and encouraging words. I am increasingly aware of the benefits and relationship between breath and posture through yoga and meditation practice. Awareness and a love of ongoing learning and practice is such a joy. I love that everything starts and ends with breath. So simple.
My intention this year is to expand. To keep growing from this place of appreciation of everything that is and to reach out, stretch out. Expansion and expression, coupled with awareness and appreciation. Yes to this, yes to life ❤
Sounds wonderful Christina – always keep learning, practicising and curious! Dx
Hi, my name is Ayako. I am sending this comment from Japan. This may be a little too last response, but anyway…
The posture has been my biggest, worst problem for a long, long time. I know how it feels when you keep your posture high and straight and I always want myself to feel that way. One of my real problem is that I am so thin (164cm, 45kg) I don’t have enough muscles to keep my posture straight up, though I am very careful about my diet and do some voluntary training every day. Also the mind and posture are closely related. When I am tired, in low spirits, or (literally) have lost self-confidence, I stoop, crumple into a chair or trudge along with my eyes downcast.
So your ‘confidence’ course sounds perfect to me, and I would like to enjoy my aging journey as much as you do.
It sounds as though fitness and building up muscle strength is your area to concentrate on – a keep-fit or ballet class a couple of times a week might be something to think about. I agree totally that mind and posture are closely related – changing one changes the other! Thank you so much for commenting.
You are inspiring me to make change, thank you 😘
That’s so lovely to hear Lizzi – thank you Dx
Thank you for your Booster!
I have just started a new career – lecturing and doing workshops. I am 68. That is why I am very appreciative of your your newsletter. Thank you for your comments on deportment. I will be more aware now!
Dear Gosia,
I’m so thrilled to hear you are starting at new career at 68 – it’s never too old. I was rediscovered as a model at 70!
Deportment is so important as your first building block. Well done and enjoy your lecturing and workshops .
All the best Daphne
For your wise encouragement, thank you Daphne!
At 5` 12″, 53 years, without work, family and in new widowhood, I`m going to jumpstart my mojo, staying slim, gorgeous and full of grace, just as do you! For me, that begins with beautiful posture and movement, the very bedrocks of confidence – but it began also with the reading of your marvellous book, `The way we wore`, from which I gained surety that one day at a time, I can change and develop, forming a cocoon around my sadness, Confidence in the present, and for the future, for which I thank you most sincerely, special lady.
Dear Helen,
I’m glad that you enjoyed my book. You may be sad at the moment, as you wouldn’t expect otherwise. Life has indeed changed paths and with your outlook I know that you will find new direction and increasing confidence.
Don’t rush and one day you will realise that you’ve got your sparkle back!
Take care
Daphne
Morning …..I am 58 years old and have been focusing on my health and wellness the last 3 years. The last year I have been taking boxing lessons at Box Beat in SA and my body has changed and I feel the best ever in 30 years. I love reading and following you. You inspire me 100%. 🦋
Sounds really great Janet. Well done you – as for boxing WOW! The key is to find exercise that you love. Thank you so much for your kind comments. Dx
Issues with low self-esteem are problematic, and I feel having an older mentor to help us maximise our appearance would help tremendously.
Perhaps this could be established across the UK, with a programme that reaches out to seniors
I agree self esteem can’t be underestimated and this programme reaches across the whole of the UK and across the World – the wonder of the internet makes this possible. It doesn’t matter where you are and you have the freedom to do the course at a time that suits you – still with the benefit of knowing others are doing it too and Claire & I are supporting you. Dx
You are a Inspiration and i certainly need that at the minute .
Thank you Julie – I’m wondering if I can help with anything and hope you’re joining me on this course. Dx
At 53, I’m having a very hard time finding my self worth and where I fit in. I was laid off last May and haven’t been able to find a job as of yet. A big part of the problem is being 53 with no college degree. Even for administrative positions you need a degree these days. Even though I have 25+ years of experience. Rejection after rejection has really taken a toll on my self esteem. Not to mention the stress of no income. Its a lot.
My stress has taken a terrible toll on my skin and I’m not able to purchase my skin care products that I use right now. It just makes you feel bad about yourself.
However, I know things will turn around sooner or later.
Dear Mich,
I’m sad to read that life is hard at the moment. Rejection is something I know a lot about – the life of a model is mainly rejection after rejection and I still have plenty of it!
If we can deal with the effect that it has and take the stress out of each rejection things will improve with your skin.
I’m a great believer in taking care of the ‘inside’ and although expensive skin creams are lovely to have (when you can afford them easily) they are not essential to having good skin.
It’s so good to know that you believe that things will turn around sooner or later
Take care of yourself Dx