Let Daphne help you to be more confident and feel more beautiful


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4-Week online Course


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Price £297 / $397






Daphne Selfe modelling shots


The start of a new year is a great place for a review – a confidence review so we like to run this course at the beginning of each year. Because of the extraordinary COVID-19 Pandemic many of us are in Lockdown and Quarantine and you have asked us to run this course while we are at home facing uncertainty and needing to review and reassess. After much thought about whether this is the right timing we have scheduled a course for you starting on Monday week and would love to have you join us too.



Are you happy with how you feel, look and are approaching this stage of your life?

How is your wardrobe, makeup, hair, confidence and self-esteem?

Do you want this next phase to be the one where you are happy with your age, weight, appearance, mood and impact on others?

Is this the time for that new job, partner, hobby or adventure and you don’t want to hold yourself back any longer?

How much more energy and confidence would you have if you were really comfortable in your own skin expressing your own uniqueness and style?


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The Book campaign for Kaodachi by photographer Rainer Hosch


I understand that change is uncomfortable and it is much easier to stick to familiar old habits. Taking on new ways of being can be very worthwhile and transformative. With years in front of the camera and on the catwalk along with a lifetime love of fashion and style, I can help with the where, how and what!

Building confidence from action starting right now I want you wherever you are to sit or stand a bit taller. Stretch up your spine out of your hips and pull your shoulders back and breath. Doesn’t that feel good? Are you ready to create dreams and goals and face new challenges with a little more confidence already!

Standing taller with better posture not only makes you feel more confident it will make you less invisible (no more invisibility thank you as you’re too precious for that!) Test out this new posture when you walk across your place of work/study or down the street. Notice not only how it feels to you but how others respond to you.   Any type of clothing looks better too – I know, I’ve modelled a rubbish bag before!

Can you keep this new posture up?  How long before you lapse back to a familiar, less than ideal one – is the invisibility cloak back on?

  •  How happy are you on film and doing selfies?  Social media is all the rage – don’t get left behind and join in the fun
  •  Don’t assume the best days of your life are behind you (I’m 91 so I know).


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Daphne Selfe professional modelling course


Hello, Claire here Daphne’s daughter, I do think Daphne is really on to something here for those of us who don’t want to be models but could do with a bit of model confidence – who better to go to than Daphne with her 80 plus years of style.

Daphne outlined above how she wants to help with challenges and changes as we go through life. People are often asking Daphne how to approach age, weight, hair, style, exercise and numerous other topics. You may be asking what kind of transformation can I expect? What better than to talk to one of Daphne’s students so I’m here at the Shetland Pony Club with Rosemary.


Here in Cupcake’s dream stable, Rosemary tell me how did you meet Daphne?

Well, I met Daphne as she actually came to Shetland Pony Club my pony club.  She walked into the Ranch and she looked amazing.  I knew who she was immediately as she is very recognisable and I also knew that she loved ponies and we had a lovely day.  I was amazed at realising that she was in her eighties and how stylish she was.

Were you struggling with any aspects of how you were feeling about yourself at the time?

Well, yes I was, I’m in my fifties and working at the pony club I had rather stopped wearing makeup, which was a choice – I chose not to do that and then along came YouTube and we started doing a very successful weekly show where I actually had to talk to the cameras. When I started doing that I wasn’t very happy with how I looked. 

So you weren’t feeling particularly confident or feeling beautiful about yourself?

I was quite nervous, I’d been one of those media courses about how to talk to the media which unfortunately rather wrecked my confidence.  They told you to be more confident but not how to do it.

Sounds like they gave you the problem but not the solutions that you were after?

Yes, I came out of it feeling that I wasn’t sure that I wanted to host a YouTube show.


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Daphne with Rosemary (before taking the Confidence Course)



What particularly did you feel you got the most out of Daphne’s Confidence Course?

Well, I really enjoyed the course and Daphne helps you look at the good points that you do have.  We all have points that we like and points that we don’t and I was interested to hear that actually, Daphne has somethings that she doesn’t like about her body.  I had crooked teeth as a result of an accident and I thought I’d like to get them fixed (as a result of doing the course) and in fact, when I went to the dentist he fixed them really quickly and without any great expense which boosted my confidence.  Then I thought I could try wearing a bit more makeup and I looked at the more modern colours that are out there – I enjoyed doing that.


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Rosemary at Shetland Pony Club (After taking the Selfe Confidence Course) Please note this transformation above & below is all Rosemary own work & choices. Daphne & Claire weren’t involved in the details or styling in any way!   


Well certainly looking at your YouTube channel and looking at you now you look very confident and beautiful so would you say that some of that has come from being a student of Daphne?

Yes, definitely,  I went through my wardrobe and picked out the clothes that I really like. English country clothes are really nice with the tweeds and things and although I don’t have very many of them the ones I’ve got are nice quality and I thought, do you know what, just wear them a bit more.

So you do feel good when you get up in the morning and you might have very little time to spend would you say that you feel good about what you choose to put on and how you go out into the world?

Yes, I do and as it is a weekly YouTube show we are under pressure to come up with a film every week so you have to be ready to go when the cameras roll.  But I think it is not just the fact that this is part of my work everybody nowadays is photographed a lot more than we used to be – Instagram, Facebook, so I think that paying attention to how you look is something that affects everybody and of course we all get older and Daphne has been stylish all her life so she is very inspiring.

How did you find the course being online?

You know, that was good for me.  I’m really busy and it meant that I could do it in my own time and in the privacy of my own home.  I didn’t have to rush anywhere to get to a meeting or class.  I could just do it online and I loved that – it was really good.

My last question is:-  I’m told that some of the ponies, I’m not sure if Cupcake is one, have hair extensions. Is this true?

Yes, it is true, it’s not just people and models that have hair extensions.  If they are doing fashion shoots and the ponies do fashion photo shoots sometimes they need more hair – but you don’t Cupcake do you, you don’t need more hair!  

Well, thank you very much Cupcake for letting us film in your stable and please read the next update from Daphne below.


Confidence Update with Daphne Selfe

Rosemary at the Shetland Pony Club


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Daphne Selfe model


A lack of confidence or more confidence is something I see and hear about all the time. I feel that I know a lot about it after all my years of experience and the life I have been lucky to lead. I come across a lot of people who aren’t as confident as they’d like to be and I know I can help. So I’ve come up with a Confidence Plan!



As I’ve said before this course will be entirely focussed on building self-esteem and feeling more beautiful.  It will consist of things I know and have learnt over my long life in fashion. I’m going to cover various different areas and ways to improve your confidence including your posture, style, makeup, exercise, diet and more.

Although people are often asking me how to approach ageing, weight, hair, clothing and diet you may be asking what kind of transformation can I expect?  I believe that if you give attention to different areas of your life, many times in just small ways, these changes can lead to big differences and totally give you a new experience of yourself.

I have a vision of the world where we are all feeling and looking our best and are full of enthusiasm and energy. I’d like to help and the best way to do that and fit in today’s world with our busy schedules is to do it online!


Photo by Rainer Hosch taken in Paris for Harpers Bazaar Japan


It is a 4-week online course starting on Monday week and each week will have different areas to focus on and you can do in your own time and at your own pace. Think of it like a journey (a Confidence Plan) where each thing leads on to the next.


The course covers the following areas:


Week One – Posture / Clothing / Style

Week Two – Skincare / Makeup / Hair

Week Three – Diet / Weight / Exercise

Week Four – Self-esteem / Ageing / New Horizons


The course will consist of my knowledge, solutions that work and suggested things to do and change or improve to achieve the results that you’d like and dream of.  We are all different and I want to help you be the best ‘you’ that you can be and make the best of your natural attributes inside and out.

I’m known for being natural and elegant and those are important things that define me so if you are planning plastic surgery, have no intention of trying to look after yourself in a healthy way or have no interest in how you present yourself this course won’t be for you.  I’m not saying these things are wrong, they just aren’t who I am and I not the best person to help.

You will receive regular emails and the link and password to the private area of my website to access the course material as we go through the 4 weeks.



This next course is starting soon and do be assured that I offer a full money back guarantee if you should be disappointed in any way.  l keep registration open for a short time only or until the places are full so don’t delay and be disappointed. 

I’m planning on closing enrolment on Saturday at 6 pm (London time) or when it is full – so don’t delay to avoid disappointment.

The cost of the course is £297 or $397 and sign up is NOW OPEN ready for us to start or you can go on the list for future courses here


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If you have any questions please do not hesitate to email: confidence@daphneselfe.com

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I’m looking forward to getting started and hope you are too – The course is NOW OPEN for you to sign up – click on one of the purple “Yes, please, I want to sign up now” links to go on the waiting list and I’ll be in touch.

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photographer - Alistair Guy